Here’s how I see things: we’re all born into systems that are made up of people we did not choose and experiences we had no control over.
If you were fortunate enough to grow up in a trauma-free, kind, loving family, great! If not, you learned as best you could to survive the dynamics of multiple systems: family, friends, school, society, culture. Later, you learned how to survive work, career, adult relationships. The survival skills you developed served you until…? You may have attempted to sort this out for yourself and now think: I may need some help.
My approach to therapy is based on positive psychology (what’s right with you), mindfulness (learning to develop non-judgmental awareness, inner calm, self-compassion, and positive emotions), and problem solving. I want you to feel better and live a more satisfying life.
No one can guarantee that a particular type of therapy or a specific therapist is right for you. The only way to find out is to see for yourself. Whether you have specific goals or an underlying feeling that something “isn’t right”, doing something about it takes courage. You can do this!
ABOUT MY PRACTICE
I have moved my practice to ONLINE only. With COVID-19 restrictions, I realized that I don’t want to go back to the “way things were” which, with some distance, I realize now weren’t ideal. In addition to other pluses: The convenience of meeting online eliminates the anxiety and stress of traveling to an office for sessions.
IMPORTANCE OF THE CLIENT-THERAPIST ALLIANCE
Your relationship with your therapist is important!
Underlying all of the work is trust. So it’s really important that you feel held, heard, and respected. You should be able to talk to your therapist about anything without fear of rejection or criticism: your relationship with yourself, your relationships with others, your past, your present, sex, money, death, accomplishments, frustrations, losses, goals, wants, desires, fantasies, fear, anger, loneliness, all feelings, not what you’ve been taught you should or are allowed to feel or think, but what is and was honest and real for you.
The way I “do” therapy is called a client-centered (by, for, and about you), interactive (a two-way conversation), transparent (ask questions when you have them), and collaborative (we work together).
Why therapy now?
That’s a great question. You may have thought about starting therapy for a while. Or had an experience recently that made you realize something’s got to change. Why Therapy Now?
Wondering What to expect…?
Online video sessions are powered by doxy.me, a secure, private, and HIPAA-compliant platform. Simple to use, you don’t even have to set up an account. doxy.me/lindaenglandmft is my waiting room. You can go to doxy.me/patients to learn more.
When I’m not writing, reading, learning, cooking, meditating, visiting with the important people in my life, hiking, binge watching TV and movies, I am working…with people like you (and me and all of us) on personal growth, relationships, life transitions, and creating a [more] happy, meaningful life.
I have quite a bit of life (decades) experience in addition to my training and clinical experience which I believe has resulted in a modest amount of wisdom and insight. I walk the walk and what do you know? I’ve learned that growth and change is not only possible, it feels really good.